My wife chose me, but most people aren't so lucky. I think people get carried away with the whole social status of a Doctor which is really unnecessary. As a physician buckling under the stress, my assigned counsellor who is also a church minister told me: So, what do I do with that. I know that she's even getting her stuff ready to go on her mission. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready. Ladies take a stance. Be fruitful and multiply. I think you should start by having some very honest conversations. No sex before marriage. I know kids and a house will make our time together challenging, but for as long as I have known him his family is the most important thing and he makes sure to keep a strong relationships between them.
When he's not at work, he's busy preparing or at conferences or studying, basically non existent. I could get a small jigsaw puzzle and send those pieces once a day.
Thanks so much for the links. I wouldn't just start bringing up the ces letter and the problems in it. If she is full on Mormon, this relationship will go one of two ways: You will convert and change your entire lifestyle and personality to conform with her expectations never to deconvert or you will face severe penalitesor you will break up because you won't convert and change everything about yourself. Like any woman I am a Medical Assistant I sometimes question myself and ask myself what I would do if "unfaithfulness" came across. It's like talking to a wall. I'm pretty disturbed by the level of dismissiveness seen in many of the comments here. I give input into our activities for dates, and this works out well since we're very compatible and like spending leisure time the same way. Joanna has written a good answer here. When I do open up to one or two close female family member, they often tell me that their husbands are equally unavailable and I should not complaint. Her experience may or may not be typical, but it is something to consider.
It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna break her heart, but much less so than waiting until you've both committed to each other and start discussing your future together. I have been married to a doctor for 29 years now and think I have felt or experienced many of the worries expressed. Go for the joy, the experiences, the children to come. She asked me to read that site and write down questions. I would do it all over again and thank my lucky stars that I found this man, that he loves, and that I love him. Be gentle with them and yourself. Within a cultural group marriage is hard. Just an idea, I have no idea what would actually work for her. But daytime game is the key. That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed.
Make sure the girl you like is already 16 years old. You can't reason with fanatics, and you got one. Honestly I'd let things keep going.