New Here? Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me here , peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. Thanks for visiting! New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. His Take questions are answered by our panel of smart, opinionated, and funny dudes. Brian: First of all, props to you, hot stuff, for getting back out there in the big, bad world of dating.
Your positive outlook and readiness for a relationship are strong indicators that you will find the latter and probably forthwith. First, allow me to update you on dating since your last go-around. Men who are likely to be serious about you will put on a clean shirt and pick you up at 8, not meet you at a bar at p.
I see why you sent me photos from the neck down. Men who are likely to be serious will not risk sabotaging a relationship by asking for a nude photo; they will, as you hope, ask for your phone number and make real plans. As mentioned, there is a benefit to this. A nude photo solicitor is helping you see that you can immediately ignore him. I barely knew anything about dating before I met her.
Is this really how people meet now? Does everyone just send each other naked pictures of themselves? Maybe nobody cares? It all sounds a little crazy to me. Guy Friday: Men want sex. Also, water is wet. Much in the same way that ancient cavemen probably wanted cavewomen to draw naked pictures of themselves on the walls, men are by and large a visual lot, and they like to see naked women.
If you like the guy, and you trust the guy, and you want to show him a little skin, go for it, but do so with the understanding that you might not hear from him again and you lose control over the dissemination of the picture. SasLinna September 30, , am.
Cherlyn September 30, , am. Anonymous January 13, , pm. I am a widow of many years. I look much younger than my age. On line dating is horrible. Men treat women as hookups. Women compete by dressing for sex. I am looking to meet a nice decent guy. It is so frustrating, they always bring up sex. Right away, texting, phone. Within a short time. Before meeting. Or if I do meet a guy for coffee. Invariably they just seem to expect something by second date.
Very frustrating process. I want to make sure a guy likes me. He wants to see me again for me. I have had men lie to me. A couple were still married. No intention of being involved. Just out there playing around. To me, on line dating has changed so much for the worse.
Really want a genuine relationship. Most on sites for ego, games, hookups. Very irritating for those of us who are sincere. Huge waste of time, energy. Nookie September 30, , am. Good luck!! Moe P September 30, , am.
I would never send nude pictures to anyone before I met them, or even after being married, because once they go through your phone, they are permanently in a public sphere and can be shared now or in the future.
A man who has any sense of being interested in any sort of relationship would focus on asking you out on a date and not on asking for nude photos. Fyodor September 30, , am. Or uploaded to some site and tagged with your name. SpaceySteph September 30, , pm. Definitely true about forwarding! Once you send the pic, you have no control over where it goes next. If you are getting a ton of those requests you need to find new guys to meet, and new places to meet them.
KMJ September 30, , am. No, do not send nude pics to someone with whom you are not in a serious relationship. Even then, use caution. Doing so is not the norm for people who are looking for a relationship. Raccoon eyes September 30, , am.
When I was online dating, if the 1st message I got was sexual in nature, I just didnt respond or if it started up before we met up, I did the same. Sure, I had my share of one nighters, or occaisional-hookup-buddy, but that was different. Hold out for what you believe in, and dont compromise on it!
Good guys are out there. Omg, I thought I was so popular when I first signed up. Ahaha, ohh , I can joke about it now! But it is a strange letdown- like, you get all these messages! Some of them are so witty and charming!! And then nothing really comes of most of them. But as they say, online dating is a numbers game, so keep at it! Diablo September 30, , am.
There is only one use for a nekkid pic of a woman. If so, they grew up with the same standards for things. I am I have never seen a naked photo of any woman I have personally known in real life. Or needed to. Then again, i have not been single for a long time, just like you. This is my point — the guys you seek should have similar standards to yours, not only because of similar history, but because these are the people who might be suitable for you to have a relationship with.
Why would you WANT to date some squicky fapping 26 yo or 49 yo gamer dork who asked to see you naked before he even met you in person? Why would anybody? Nookie October 2, , am. RedRoverRedRover September 30, , am. He can be as trustworthy as possible, but his phone could still be hacked, could be stolen, or he could just leave it unlocked one time and his best friend or brother or someone goes through it and sends the photo to himself.
You never know! Moneypenny September 30, , am. MaterialsGirl September 30, , pm. However, the guy and I did the old meeting Friday because I literally fell asleep on the couch 15 minutes into a movie.
He did not ask for naked pics. He just wanted to get to know me. RedBlue September 30, , pm. Even in a dating situation, the relationship can sour resulting a formerly trusted boyfriend to post your photos in bitterness.
There are whole websites dedicated to revenge porn and some have been known to post the information about the person in the photo.